Friday evening we took the metro (subway) to the Stoddard's apartment and they fed us. Suzie is an excellent cook. We talked and then we all took the subway back up to Krashadik street - we thought it was blocked off on Friday night but it wasn't. So they walked us to the apartment and I showed them the view from the balcony - it was worth it!!!!

Nicoli showed up at 1130 and we were off to Boryspill where the airport is.

We were booked on the 1400 flight via Lufthansa to Frankfort and then a 1700 flight from Frankfort to DC. Then a 2209 to Richmond. As I checked my bag - I was overweight by 2 KG!!! That's cause Cody doesn't have a bag himself - so I stuffed some clothes in the backpack and we were off! I decided to have one last Piva at the airport (and use up some grivna) and as luck would have it I had to use the facilities before we took off but couldn't cause of the seatbelt!!! I used the facilities on the plane as soon as we were airborne.

When we got to Frankfort, we had one hour to find United and board the plane. We landed at one end of the terminal and took a shuttle to the other end because we were told to. Then we went through security again and then ran like the wind back to the other end and boarded the flight as they were closing the door. The United flight was a Boeing 757 and had wide seats and little tvs in each headrest. They served us food and wine and it was a nice 8 hour flight.

Then we got to DC and went through customs. No problem - took no more time than anyone else. Then we got our luggage and got to the ticket counter to check the bag to Richmond and we had no seat assignment - plus I was still 2 pounds over on weight so I stuffed some more stuff in the backpack ( it's getting heavy now!!!) We went through security again (took three times as long as customs) and finally got to the gate to find out they were overbooked. We finally did get the last two seats and arrived in Richmond at 2300 - 17 hours after we flew out of Kiev!

Went to church on Sunday but fell asleep around 5 for an hour or so! Went to work on Monday which would have been my first unpaid day had I not gotten home!

Medical, Embassy for Visa

Notice the view - from the seventh floor balcony. I'm almost afraid to drink a piva on the balcony cause if I dropped it, it could kill someone. I did say "almost"!!

It has been cooler here - upper 50's but absolutely beautiful!! Ate at McDonalds three times yesterday - not for the food - it's just convenient! It is the only place open before 8 AM.

Took a cab to the Embassy first thing this morning and had the Visa in hand by 9:30. We took the Metro (subway) back to the apartment. Now we just wait for Kathie to do her majic with Golden Rule travel to get us back. Please pray for a Delta opening!! That is a better itinerary.

Just chillin at Double Coffee on Krashadic street. Large ritzy area by Independence Square. Eating chocolate cake for breakfast - Cody had 2 milkshakes - can't remember the word for no!!!

Tuesday/Wednesday Zaporozhya

After all the running around we had to pay a fee at a bank and although it was open and there was one person there, they were not doing business – so it was time to call it a day at about 6:30. We went to eat at a restaurant that we all ate at in the park when we were in Zaporozha the last time when we were getting the separation agreement approved. We were all frazelled from the heat, the lack of food and the running around. Oles deserves an atta-boy for almost getting us on our way in one day!!!!

Oles made a call and we had an apartment for the night. It is about three blocks from the hotel we stayed at while waiting for the separation hearing. I was watching where the nearest Coffee Life was and come to find out there is a small one one block up the street from our apartment.

The apartment is on the second floor and has two bedrooms, air conditioning, and a great bathroom with a shower that has a kazillion nozzles in it – spent 20 minutes figuring out how that works!!! Unfortunately, they don't have enough water pressure to make it work right – but in Ukraine it's the thought that counts!!!

I showered and got all cleaned up and then headed for Coffee Life to communicate with the outside world. Cody was watching World Cup soccer on TV. I blogged and chatted with a few folks and headed back to the apartment. I had to do a load of laundry as Cody has nothing clean to wear. I picked up a piva at the corner kiosk and watched soccer with Cody. Brazil was playing Korea got to see Brazil make a goal from the right side – great play!!

Got up at about 7:30 and packed and walked to Coffee Life to blog. Sat out front reading E-Mail till they opened at 8. Had a fruit tart with ice cream (gonna miss this when I leave) and skyped with Tobi, Tommy, and Diane.

Today we had to find a Notary that would process a petition for Cody to get his passport and then to pick up the passport. Finding a Notary that would do it without an existing passport was challenging. We found one about 2:30 PM and we were able to pick up the passport around 4 PM. Unfortunately his name is now Codi instead of Cody because we could wait another two days for the correction. As we learned with Elliott – you pretty much live with whatever ends up on the passport.

We got tickets for the train (a compartment to ourselves) ate supper and boarded the train. Fortunately it is air conditioned (in the Ukrainian way – that means you get a hind of coolness coming from some place). I am waiting on my cold Piva to arrive. We should wake up refreshed in Kyiv at about 6 AM.

Here we are in Kyiv – arrived right on time at 6 AM. Nicoli picked us up and carried our bags to the car where Yulia was waiting. She says that we may be able to fly Saturday – depending on the Embassy and the Visa.

They took us to a beautiful apartment – very close to the one we had when we first got here. It is right across the street from the McDonalds on Independence Square. We are on the 7^th floor and there is an elevator (2 regular folks and maybe 3 thin folks can fit in it). The apartment is small but is very nice. Great bathroom!!

Sunday, Monday, Tuesday (June 13-15)

We walked along the promenade and along the boardwalk on Sunday afternoon but not much was going on. There we quite a few people swimming as it was hot. A couple of trains went through. It is interesting that they have a freight track running to the docks along the boardwalk – imagine that at Virginia beach – a freight train running down the middle of the boardwalk!!! I understand that the track was there long before the tourist buildup but it is interesting.

Nicky told us why there are locks on the railing – when couples are married they engrave a lock and put it there. Interesting because I took a picture in that same gazebo in 2006 and there were no locks. But that does make sense – kinda like the American ball and chain thing!!!!

We headed back to the apartment to cool off and get cleaned up for supper. We decided to go toClub 89 because it is by the sea and we had heard good things about it. We took a cab. There were loads of folks down on the promenade now – about 6:30 PM. They were selling ballons and there were artists and vendors – just like Virginia beach!! The restaurant was crowded but we got a table outside (too hot inside) and we ordered. Cody and I wanted fish but they were out of fish – I understand this is typical. So I had Cody order anything with chicken and he ordered the same for himself. Katia ordered a salad.

We had a good time while we waited for our food. There was sooooo much going on. Most of the couples were all dressed up and there were lots of kids roller blading and riding electric 4 wheelers around.

They brought our food and I don't know exactly what it was but it was extremely delicious!!!! It was like a slice of chicken breast that had egg and some flour and spices and was maybe half

baked and half fried – it was very tender, moist and delicious. We had katushka fri (fried

potatoes) also. Katia loved her salad but when she tried our chicken she wanted some also (probably cause Cody and I were making a lot of food loving noises) so we each shared a piece with her – the portion was fairly large.

After we ate, we went for a walk on the boardwalk. A train went by – (see the pic)!! The little carnival was in full swing in the evening. I got tickets for the kids to ride the bumper cars – they had the bestest time ever!!!. Then we walked along and decided to ride the Ferris Wheel. I was thinking that wasn't such a hot idea when I saw the cars you rode in but it was too late. It is about 80 or 90 feet tall!

On the way back to the apartment, I took a picture of a guy with a lizard – he was showing it to some young ladies who were laughing at him. Then he started yelling at me cause evidently that is how he makes his living – having people pay him to photograph his lizard. It's not the first Ukrainian to not be happy with me!!!

We took a taxi back to the apartment and skyped with Kathie and the boys.

Monday we got up early and headed for breakfast at the hotel. We were taking Katia back to

Huliaipole today and it was already a scorcher!!! Found out the schedule is the same as Saturday – 11 AM Bus to Huliaipole and then a 3:20 PM back to Berdyansk. I bought three tickets and we started our 75 minute wait. Then I got a call from Oles saying that Cody needed to head back to the Orphanage to take a test – so I sent him on his way. I escorted Katia and prayed that God would once again give me traveling mercies.

The whole weekend had been out of my comfort zone but God had been doing a work in all of us!! I was not happy when I found out that Katia was staying with me instead of the Orphanage and then God worked that out by allowing Cody to stay with us. That was a miracle all into itself!! If

Katia hand Cody had stayed at the Orphanage – they really wouldn't have had time to bond and neither would I. As a result, the weekend was perfect – a great experience with lasting memories for all of us. And now, it would be just Katia and I on the trip back.

I was a little nervous again – traveling asnd not speaking the language is daunting but Huliaipole is not a big city!!! Katia and I had plenty of time to communicate and by the time we got to thew orphanage, she was hitting me in the arm just like Cody does. In Huliaipole, the same cab driver was waiting that we used two days before – so it was a no brainer to get him to wait while I walked Katia to the office. When I got back to the bus station I knew I had to wait till 2:30 before I could purchase my ticket. I did ask what time the bus for Bredyansk left and they told me at 3:20 – which is what I expected. I also knew it would be the same bus that brought us up there.

The only down side was – it was hot and it looked like a storm was brewing. It was a deluge before the bus got there and the driver had closed the roof vents – so much for air. By the time I got back to Berdyansk, the sun was shining and I was about to pass out from the heat. Definitely a 2 piva night at the hotel!!!

Oles had driven in early that morning and I gave him my bed and I got up to catch up on paperwork. Since he had his car – it would be an easy trip to Zaporozhya when we go. I went back to the apartment and got my stuff together so I could pack in a moments notice and went to bed. At 7:30 Tuesday, I got that notice we were leaving!!!! Lots of running around to do. Evidently Oles had worked out a deal with the Orphanage Director to get them a copy of the birth certificate after we have it changed. We got on the road to Zap about 1100 and arrived at 1:30.

Got Cody's new birth certificate in about an hour and now we are waiting while Oles sees what we need at the passport office. I hope those prayer's I asked for are working!!!

Well, it seems that Oles may have worked a deal to get the passport very soon!! We ran to a Notary to get copies of the Birth Certificate and to find a place to do passport photos. All that is done and we are back at the passport office - we still haven't had lunch at it is 5 PM but if we can work a deal here – we may be on our way to Kyiv soon!!!

Looks like it will be tomorrow before we blow this town – looking for another Notary and then supper and find a room for the night.

Friday, Saturday and Sunday

On Friday, Cody and I went to the water park. I gues that this is where the long Marshriutka ride paid off cause I already knew which one to take and how to get back. It took almost an hour to get there and I was hoping to run into the Steen's. I was expecting Water Country USA and it was actually a lot nicer is some ways. It cost 175 rph to get in (about $23). First of all – it wasn't crowded as I thought it might be considering how hot it was. There is only one dressing room full of lockers. There are booths around the perimeter to change in. The rest rooms are separate at the end of the building and are nice if you ignore the fact that the door is wide open and you can see down the row of urinals!!! There are two huge free form pools – one is a little more family

oriented and the other has a huge bar (not in the pool but along one side). The family oriented

pool has huge mushrroms with water flowing over the top of them like water country.

The water rides are much more I wish I had pictures – maybe I can find some on Google Earth.

The platforms and areas around the pool had the same slick tile they use in all the bathrooms here. It has sharp edges and I cut a toe on it. I also about fell a dozen times. They have no

liability laws here evidently!

Modesty is not a priority either. There were no one piece suits for the women and there were an abundance of thongs. There was some topless sunbathing by the family pool and I was the only

male wearing a suit to my knees. Every other male had a rather small speedo. Glad I left my camera at the apartment. A bunch of small kids with speers kept following me around and saying “Thar she blows!” in Russian!

Overall, it was great!

Then we went to the Rio Restaurant for supper. They misunderstood Cody's order (the same as mine) and it took two hours to get it!! My patience was wearing thin! The food was good though!

On Saturday, we left for Huliaipole to get Katia. We went to the bus station about 10 AM and caught the 10:20 to Huliaipole. It arrived at 1330 and we took the only available cab to the orphanage. I had him wait while we wrote out and signed a petition to take Katia with us. We got back to the Bus Station and had to wait 15 minutes before they could tell us when the next bus to Berdyansk was – it was in 50 minutes.

It was hot before we left Berdyansk. The buses are not air conditioned and the only window that opened was the driver's door window. There were three vents on the roof that supplied air when the bus was moving – but at three stops where we waited for 15 minutes each, we baked.

There are only three trees in Huliaipole and none of them are near the bus station. It reminded

me of one of those stage stops in the old west where the only shade was inside the building but the air wasn't moving there. I had to use the toilet and it was a metal outhouse behind the station. I can hold my breath for about 180 seconds!!! Then we were on the bus back at 1620. It was the same bus we took up!!! Got back in just an hour and a half and headed straight for the hotel to eat cause it was air conditioned and the food is good. Katia only had strawberry crepes – I on the other hand, was starving and had fried salmon and fries and a nice cold piva!!!

I called Oles to see what arrangements he had made for Katia to stay at the orphanage – Cody is staying there and Katia cannot stay with me alone at the apartment. He made a quick call to Galena Anatoliva and viola – Cody is staying at the apartment too!!

On Sunday, we got up and took the Marshriutka to the Hotel for breakfast – what? You thought I was gonna cook? Get real!!! Cody had the same american breakfast I had including the coffee and Katia had american fries and orange fanta. Then we walked down to the sea.

I bought Katia a pair of sunglasses and it was a hoot watching her try them all on and the two salesmen trying to convince her which pair she needed. She definitely got a good pair – here are some pictures.

Friday, June 11

Monday is June 14 - it is the 10th day and it is also an anniversary for me - 39 years ago, I left my parent's home and started my active duty with the US Navy. I remember that I was excited and somewhat apprehensive because I didn't really know what was going to happen. I wonder if that is the way that Cody feels about going to America? Elliott and Nicky had experiences that were very different from each other - Nicky is always just on to the next thing in his life and Elliott was depressed about leaving his friends and family behind. I think that Cody will be somewhere in between.

I have been very pleased that Cody just wants to hang!! He has played some soccer in the mornings when he hasn't had exams but when I pick him up we just go do whatever I want (hear that kath? He's spoiling me!!).

Last night we went to the Rio restaurant to eat again. The do not have an English menu so I had Cody order me fish. I was wondering what they were doing because it took about an hour to get our food - but it was great! I had Pelangas - whatever that is - it is a teder white fish and I had mashed potatoes. Cody had Dihruni (again) and then we took the #5 Marshriutka to the orphanage.

This Marshriutka was more like an old bus with a door in the front and the back on the side and was taller so you could stand up straight although there were plenty of seats. They also gave receipts! A guy came back and collected the 2 rph and gave you a small ticket from a roll that was numbered. All the other Marshriutka's that I have taken - you just pass the money to the driver and tell whoever you give it to how many it is for (udeen, duva, tree...) and then they pass back your change.

Two older boys from the orphanage got on the bus and Cody talked with them while we traveled to our destination. We got off at the corner by the orphanage and I walked him to the gate. We used to pass through the fence where it was bent next to a pole but they welded a piece of steel there so you can't get through! They must have seen me squeezing through and decided that they needed to keep the old fat men out!!!

It was another nice night out so I walked back to the apartment. There are a lot of folks outside at night, walking and riding their bikes - this is around 8:30 to 9:30 and it is not quite dark yet.

I am at the hotel again - having my favorite breakfast. When it was served today, I was surprised as it looked different - the cheese was shredded on the top and there were other spices sprinkled on the edge of the plate and some garnish. It looked alot like the Caesar Salad except it was missing the mayo. It actually tasted better than yesterday's eggs! Must be another chef today!!! I wonder how I would ask for them done like this again???

Not sure what Cody and I will do today - I may try to get him early and head for the water park - I know how to get there - take the #17 till you hear the banjo music!! I wonder if they have ever seen a great white whale in the Azov sea? I read the Steen's blog and they are going there with a group from the Zaporozhya orphanage and it would be nice to see them.

Thursday, June 10

Cody and I went down by the sea yesterday afternoon. It was pretty warm and we had not brought our suits so we didn't go swimming – but we will probably do that today – because it is already warmer than yesterday and it is only 9:30. In the picture of Cody, he is standing in a cupola with columns thet have a metal railing and all over the railing are padlocks – some huge

and some tiny – most have something written on them, engraved on them and some have something welded on them! If anyone knows what this is all about – I'm dying to know!!!

We had some ice cream and then we headed for the apartment. We took the Marshriutka which

was extremely hot. Although the body odor was intense I was the only one visibly sweating. We

got out at our stop and headed straight for the apartment where the a/c was running good!

About 5:30, Cody and I headed to the little market with the tables in the shade on the Boulevard (the little park about a block from the apartment. There were only three or four tables set out in

the past and maybe ten people sitting there. Today there were eight tables and about 20 folks sitting at them. I had a bottle of Slavutich piva and Cody had a Fanta Lemon Lime. We got the table closest to the boulevard under the tree. I noticed thet there were these two guys about 10 feet from us and one was definitely slurring his words – he was a pretty good sized feller too! Also noticed there was a bug or two walking up the side of his face and he didn't seem to mind – probably kinda numb. In Ukraine, they sell beer in 2 liter plastic bottles – somewhat larger than the 40's I've seen in the states. This feller was sucking the last few drops from his bottle.

So, Cody and I have been enjoying about 30 minutes of near solitude and I am almost done with my beer when the guy at a table next to the intoxicated guy decides that he is kinda unhappy with some thing. The both stand – well the one guy stands and the intoxicated feller stumbles to his feet and staggers, then the other guy hits him and he comes flying back at Cody and I's table and falls on it collapsing the table – by this time Cody and I are on our feet backing up on the boulevard. The intoxicated guy ain't moving much and the other guy comes over and starts kicking him in the head – this is where I grab Cody's hand and point to the apartment. As we leave we turn to see what is going on and about 10 guys are attending to the drunk feller and the attacker is wa;llking the opposite way down the boulevard.

Here I thought the boulevard was a safe family gathering place! The only times I have seen a drunk here was once or twice along the road as they were sleeping it off or once or twice along the promenade as they begged. I definitely have not seen any violence anywhere; the Ukrainians

seem to be very gracious overall if not mostly quiet and private.

So we headed back to the apartment and watched a kung fu movie that the boys left here – definitely did not need to know English to understand this one – in fact I though t about turning the sound off as it was detracting from the movie!!

At 8:30, I walked Cody back to the Orphanage – we were karate chopping each other the entire way – with a few ninja moves thrown in. Ukrainians probably think that Americans are pretty juvenile – I don't care – it was fun!!!!

Here is a photo I found interesting. They are putting a two story porch on the front of the Atlantis night club. I have been watching the progress trying to figure it out. They have put a

stairway on each side. The other side is done and here they are welding in the landing between the two sections of stairs. Notice that the landing is being supported by the crane. After they welded in the lower section of stairs, they put a support under the landing and remover the temporary supports. Should it have been done from the ground up?

I

am at the Hotel having breakfast again – my new favorite place. I took the Marshriutka again and it was the most packed I have seen! I didn't worry about pickpockets cause I couldn't even get my own hand in my pocket. It was mostly a bunch of older women in their late fifty's – wait a minute – I'm in my late fifties! At least there wasn't any body odor that I could detect and I didn't smack any babuska's.

OK - here it is - new sunglasses - my idea not Cody's but he likes them! Cody just pointed out that I have not posted a pic of his new tennies - there are in the photo with the sunglasses and this was taken last week last week

when we got them.

Learning More

Well...I wasn't too far wrong about going to Siberia!! I picked up the Marshriutka (according to Cody, I have been pronouncing it wrong!) where I left it at the park. Logic told me that it made a big circle and I just had to stay with it. BTW – logic doesn't always pan out! We turned left at the train station and headed east (toward Siberia). The existing passengers slowly exited, two or three at a time, until I was left. We were way out past the water slide, where the sand dunes start. The Driver asked me where I was headed ( I really couldn't tell...but what else was he going to say?) I told him pidiotset – tree pioneerska (53 pioneerska street) and he shook his head. I shrugged my shoulders – international sign that I am a dumb american and he laughed and smiled! He pulled into a parking lot with other smaller Marshriutka's and talked to the driver who nodded and I got on that bus, paid my 2 grivna and we headed west. After about 45 minutes, we stopped at pioneerska and I got out, stooped down and kissed the ground. The folks at the stop looked at me a little funny and then parted so I could walk down the sidewalk.

After I dropped my stuff at the apartment, I walked to the orphanage – Marshriutka #5 goes there and I didn't know where to catch it – who knows – I might have been gone a few days!! I told Cody about the experience and he laughed his butt off. We took a cab to the Hotel Berdyansk for lunch and then headed to the Del Mar Building on the promenade to shoot pool. The third floor has about twenty tables – most are huge by american standards – Oles said they are Russian regulation size. We chose one of the two american sized tables and I proceeded to teach Cody to play. He is a quick learner and he wasn't intimidated cause I am not all that good (I lost the first game cause I scratched on the 8 ball) and he was doing as well as I by the third game!

Then we headed back to the apartment. We walked the five blocks to the market and caught the #17 to go back to the apartment. It was the exact same driver and bus that I rode to the far end. It was packed and it was hot (like 85 degrees) so Cody and I squeezed in the back door. I paid the 4 grivna and hung on with one hand. There is no personal space concept in Ukraine – this is considered “pressing the flesh” Ukrainian style, according to Don Norton!

There was a babushka (grandma) sitting in the seat to my left and as we rounded the turn at the bottom of the hill by the bus station and hit a huge pothole I was thrown to the left and reached for the overhead pole to get my balance and I hit the babushka in the side of her head – not very hard – but I did get her attention! I said excuse me (esvenitcha) but and tried to look apologetic but I don't think it did any good. Thankfully the bus bounced all the way up the hill and kinda rearranged all the passengers that were standing and I ended up closer to the door with someone else between me and the babushka. We finally got to the apartment and we exited.

Cody and I spent the rest of the afternoon watching the last half of “Blind Side” then we took a cab and went to the Rio restaurant for supper. After supper we took a cab to the orphanage and I walked the mile to the apartment. It was an absolutely gorgeous night out – slight breeze and like 75 degrees.

This morning I took the Marshriutka (I am a slow learner) downtown to drop off some more laundry from Cody. My laundry wasn't supposed to be done till tomorrow but it was ready now so I picked it up and headed the two blocks to the hotel for breakfast – then I'm gonna have Oles call me a cab back to the apartment.

I had scrambled eggs with cheese and tomato and coffee americana – It was absolutely the best!! Guess where I'm going to breakfast from now on? The coffee had no grounds in it and they warm the milk so it doesn't cool the coffee down. I would be in heaven if they had International Delight French Vanilla creamers (le moo).

I am back at the apartment – but I didn't call Oles for the cab – I left my phone back at the apartment. I walked the two blocks to the bust stop and the first one was fairly empty so I sat down with my pile of clothes ans acted Ukrainian (No smile, confident, and mean looking). I was in a seat that faced the rear and I felt as though they were all looking at me knowing that I hit the babuska yesterday. Fear started to well up in me – I thought they might gang up on me on one of the backroads seein' as I had an armload of clean clothes. I decided that if they attacked, I would fling my underwear at them and run for cover!!!

None of my fears were realized and I got off at the stop out front and managed to not trip or stumble as I exited.

Having Fun

Now that I am over the hump (court and trip to Kyiv) I am settling back and enjoying my time. I really wish Kath was here to share it with - this is the time we really enjoyed together on our last trip.

I picked up Cody at the orphanage yesterday at about 2:30 - after classes are out. I am not sure if they are really having classes but I know he still has a few tests to take. He had to write a petition and get it approved and then we headed to the Hotel for lunch. We both had Veraneke - kinda like ravioli with some kind of meat in them (didn't see any cats around!) They were delicious. We topped it off with a chocolate cake for me and ice cream with bananas for Cody. Oh yeah - I had a piva and Cody had a fanta.

We took a cab back to the apartment and i ran into Don Norton. We started talking and before I knew it I had been at it for about 30 minutes - Don has that effect on you - he is soooo interesting. I started asking him about the Matriushka (the van like buses that circle the city) and then we got into cars (one of my favorite subjects!!!). Cody is so well behaved!! he started playing solitaire on the computer and never once said anything!! Not like some of my other children!!

Then we made our way to the grocery store to get some stuff for supper. We got some chicken shish-ka-bobs and some potatoes and lotsa other stuff (bananas!) and headed home. We talked, ate and then watched the first half of the "Blind Side" - then it was time for Cody to walk back to the orphanage. I was going to go too but I had to wait for Brittany to get back so I could get my laundry out of her washer. Cody and I will watch the other half tonight. Cody understands alot of the movie - he was explaining it to me and I've seen it!!!

Today I needed to take a load of laundry to get washed - might be my last load! I decided to take the Matriushka, it cost 2 rph and #17 goes past our apartment. I had a packed backpack and my netbook and went to the stop to wait. There were several other folks there and when the first #17 arrived, is was full and so only three more squeezed on - I decided to wait because of my load. About 5 minutes later, the next one stopped and it had 2 seats available. I got on with one other guy an he passed his 2 rph up so I did the same just like I been doin' this for years!!! All the while I pray I'm not headed to a gulag in Siberia (but I do have a lot of clothes if necessary!!!). It finnally loops downtown and stops at the "head in the park" (statue where the Rio Restaurant is) which is just one block from the laundry and it only cost 2 rph!!

Dropped off the laundry, went to the bank to get more rph and now I'm relaxing with a coffee americana. Oh yeah, the difference between Coffee and Cafe is КОФЕ and КАФЕ - Cody pointed it out during my Russian lesson yesterday! See how observant I am!!! I am learning how to recognize certain words like Zaporozhya. I would have thought that there would have been two Z's in it but they are really two different sounds the Z is a З like the English Z and the ZHYA is a Ж and Zaporozhya has two of them in a row!!! So I guess it is really Zaporozhzhya! If you can sound out the letters - many times it is basically the english word with a Russian accent (Simon would like to know that!!!)- video and computer are examples. So much for today's Russian lesson.

I am hopping to meet up with the Steens when we get to Zaporozhya. They should be there by then but I am not sure how much time we will have there. After the ten day waiting period is up (on Monday, June 14) we have to change the birth certificate and get a passport. Since Cody was born in Zap, I thought we would get him and go there anget it done on our way to Kyiv. Well... I can't get him from the orphanage until the Birth Certificate is changed cause the court order says Cody Aleksander Schweickert and his birth certificate says Aleksander Soss... (can't spell it). I am praying that Galena will let us take him before the change so I don't have to go back and forth.

Then the next issue is how long will it take to get a new passport for him. last time we were here it was done while you wait - now it can take up to 10 days. Oles thinks 3 days and I am praying for less than that - I need to get back to work before they realize I'm gone!!!! So I covet all your prayers for that .

After Zap we go to Kyiv for a physical and a visa from the embassy - maybe another 3 days. Then we fly! Cody has never been on a plane!!! Told him that it was about 11 hours - he thought that was cool!

Back in Berdyansk

Boy what an awesome trip. And let me start by giving God the glory for it!!!

Doug Stoddard picked me up about 3:30 and took me to the Smile House that is his ministry. There are constructing a halfway house for kids that age out of the orphanage and a dentist office out of an existing duplex outside Kyiv in an area where huge homes are being built. I can see that this will be a ministry above and beyond just the orphans. He was explaining the Ukrainian construction methods and now I am beginning to understand why the concrete flakes here - they don't know how to mix it!!!

WE picked up some fresh salad fixins and headed to his house where Suzie already had supper waiting. Doug and Suzie really know how to make you feel welcome!!! After and awesome dinner, Doug took me to the train station. Along the way we passed the Schweickert's favorite restaurant - Da Mario's. We did not get the chance to eat there yet - but Cody and I will be in Kyiv for three days at least and we may get the opportunity.

The first blessing I encountered at the train station - I really thought that I would have trouble finding the train. No problem!!! There is a huge board with the train numbers and the tracks they are on and I studied my Russian Book so I would recognize "To the Trains". They have about 30 tracks and each platform entry is numbered. Found the Track - found my car and I was there 30 minutes early!

Now the second blessing - I had bought a first class ticket cause they were out of regular tickets. First class is two to a compartment with no upper berths and the lowers are already made up with a nice beadspread to sit on. There is also a silver tray with two glasses on it (whoopee!). Here's the blessing - no one bought the other berth!!! I had it to myself!!! The train up from mariopal was actually nicer but I enjoyed it!!!!

When I arrived in Zaporozhya, I had cosidered walking to the bus - but there are three bus stations - two kinda close and on several KM's away. So I called Oles and he got me a taxi. The station was the close one - six blocks and it cost me 20 rph (5 rph is what I expected but 20 is only $2.50) I was getting nervous about buying my ticket so I called Oles just in case - here's the third blessing - the cashier spoke English! and the fourth blessing - the bus left in 5 minutes and I made it!!!

The bus was packed so it was an actual miracle that I was on it. There was on guy that had to sit on the engine cover next to the driver - I got the seat cause I purchased my ticket inside - if you purchase from the driver it's like standby!!!

Got back to Berdyansk at 10:07 AM and am eating breakfast. I have to stop at the Bank and then I am on my way to the apartment.

I learned two new phrases while I was waiting on Doug yesterday, "Where is the bus to Berdyansk?" and "I want a cold piva!" I used the second one twice on the train and and didn't need the first one!!!

In Kyiv - Alone

I just put Kathie in a car with Nicholi to take her to the airport. I didn't go as it would cost more to go and return and I wouldn't be able to get into the building too far anyway. Nicholi knows some English and will be a big help without me. He is also taking me to the train station tonight to head back to Zaporozhya.

Yesterday afternoon we met Karen Springs and had lunch at a nice outdoor cafe and got all caught up. Karen has been such a big help, she got us the room at the mission both times we were here. I am hoping that she can get Cody and I a room when we come back to Kyiv next week. We loved talking to her - she has one of those personalities that make you feel like she is totally absorbed in everything you say. When you have teenagers at home, you don't experience that too often!!!

Kathie and I walked to Olivia's to eat last night. The food was excellent but they only had one chardonnay and you had to buy a bottle. I had a pinot griggio and Kath had a Bonjormi ( water with gas!!! I don't need to tell you why I don't drink that!!).

I am at the Coffee House (КОФЕ ХАУЗ) ; I think the first word is cafe not coffee but it sounds the same! They have free wi-fi and great breakfast food.

Oles said for me to call him if I need a cab in Zap to get to the bus or need help purchasing a bus ticket. I may need to do that!! I really like God has been giving us a lot of grace during this trip - He has put many, many fine folks in our path to help guide us and I have no doubt that He will continue - I just need to give Him the glory!!!

Court and the Weekend

Friday (June 4) was a whirlwind! It was court day at 1 PM! We also discovered that we needed to go to a notary to get a petition for a passport for Cody so that Kathie could sign it before she left. It cannot be done before court and had Kathie left before signing it – well... only God knows what we would have had to do. Kathie and I were then going to take the evening train from Militopal to Kiev so that she can catchy her Sunday flight back to the US.

We packed in the morning and then went downtown by the sea to get lunch – the restaurant with the statue of a ship out front. The day was a little windy but it was good because it was a little on the warm side – about 82 degrees I would guess. We ate and then walked to the court building. We sent a cab for the Inspector, Cody and the orphanage representative and they met us at the court building.

The hearing was in the judges office and there were 10 folks in there, the judge, two witnesses, the recorder, the prosecuting attorney, the Inspector, the orphanage representative, Oles, Kathie and I. The room was not very big and there was a small window open, but the door was shut and with all the tension, it got a little warm in there. Neither the judge nor the other folks cracked any kind of facial expression. We were told our rights and then asked some questions, like how we came to know Cody and if we were able to take care of him. Next they called in Cody to testify on his behalf and it was a miracle...the judge smiled and so did every one else when Cody walked in!!! This 15 year old transformed the mood in two seconds and he hadn't said anything yet!! They asked him some questions that Oles translated for us and from that point on I knew we had it in the bag!!!

After Cody was dismissed, the judge pretty much read all 96 pages of our dossier!!!! She didn't look up once. Then we were asked if we had any further questions and were dismissed while the judge decided Cody's fate.

About 15 minutes later we were called in and we had to state what we were there for (i.e., Name change, change the birth certificate and to become Cody's parents... as if they didn't know!!!) and then we were told that they decided in our favor – Yeahhhhhhhh – I was smiling – definitely not the typical Ukrainian reaction.

Then we went to the notary and did the petition in about 45 minutes and headed back to the apartment. Our friend, Don Norton, a missionary that teaches English at the World Mission complex had agreed to take us to meet the train in Militopal. I just love Don! He is one of the most interesting folks to talk to. He just blesses folks all day long. He never travels without a translator in case he gets stopped by the police or gets lost so he had Igor go with us – keep in mind this is a 90 minute drive – one way!!! The drive to Militopal is along the coast and is very beautiful this time of year with all the wild flowers growing in the fields and the sea in the distance – just can't compare it to anything I have seen!!!

Militopal is about three times the size of Berdyansk and is where Elliott's sister lives. We said our goodbyes and thanked Don for being the saint that he is and thanked Igor for his assistance and headed to the station to figure out how to catch the train – we had about an hour to wait.

Then we got on the train and found our compartment – we paid for all 4 seats so we could be alone – it was a great trip (except for the jerky stopping and starting all night!!). Yulia had called Nicholi to meet us at the train station – he is great and carried our luggage and took us to the church complex that we stayed at before. The weather is at least 10 degrees cooler – just absolutely ideal. I love this part of Kyiv – lots of restaurants and coffee shops. I am having a piva moment now at a sidewalk cafe and watching the traffic and people – I don't want to leave!!!! But... I gotta go back tomorrow to spend time some quality time with Cody.

Cody is the easiest one of the three to be with on a one on one basis considering the language barrier. He just wants to be with you – no matter what you are doing. So... I have some ideas for what we can do – there is a big pool hall in the Del Marr shopping center on the third floor – thought we would try that and also got some great ideas for some food we can make at the apartment. I also want to go to the orphanage and watch him play soccer – he is very good!!!

Also – he seems to like to poke me in the stomach (could it be the size...naaaaahhhhhh – must be the muscle tone of the abs!!!!) and laugh!

Reflections from Kathie

I can't believe I'm back in Kiev. We left the US 4 weeks ago today. I fly out tomorrow. By myself. Wow. What an adventure!

A recap of the past few days, or maybe more..

It was hard seeing the boys letting the boys back home by themselves, but I see the beauty in being able to have Cody to ourselves for a few days. We just hung out. We walked, tried to talk to one another (using as few words as possible), laughed at Pap and shared a lot of food! We were afraid he was bored a few times and called Oles and had him translate that it was okay if he wanted to return to the orphanage and play with his friends, we wouldn't be upset. Every time he said he did not want to go back to the orphanage but wanted to stay with us. Sometimes it was awkwardly quiet but he seemed content. One day we bought him shoes at the market. I am sure it was the first time anyone had ever bought him anything there. I was sure he would pick out a pair of skateboard looking shoes, like Nicky and Ty's, but he didn't. He had a definite idea in mind and we walked around until we found them. We were happy he had his own ideas and didn't seem to be influenced by those American brothers of his!

We've had a great time getting to know our new (& not so new)English speaking friends, Doug & Suzie, Karen Springs in Kiev. Bill & Oksana, Dima, Frank & Chris, Don, Inna, Sara and Brittany. They are all involved in ministry, some long term and some short term. A definite gift from God for the Schweickert's!! Dave and I were reflecting today about how awesome it has been to have so many wonderful people to connect with here who have geniunely been interested in helping us. A definite blessing from God for the Schweickert's. I can't imagine getting the boys home without Stoddards or Karen setting up our housing at the church in Kiev. Then there was Bill who came to our rescue with the apartment at the center in Berdyansk. Oksana came to our rescue and translated for TV interview when Oles and Elliott were out of town. Inna bought our train tickets when we couldn't and Don got us to Melitolpol after court to catch the overnight train to Kiev. JUST TO NAME A FEW.

Then there was our fearless facilitator Oles. He is the man who can get the job done! We Americans may think we know how to do something and do it better but he understands the culture, system and people. I wouldn't hesitate on recommending him for adoption to anyone who asks. We will miss him terribly. His project manager, Yulia has been very dependable and helpful with the adoption maze while in Kiev.

Is it really this quiet?

I can't believe I am actually posting to the blog. No hubby looking over my shoulder, no loud boys, no distractions...except maybe my growling stomach! I really enjoy writing/journaling if I have time without interruption but up until now that has not happened. I am at a loss as where to begin. Maybe I will just write what comes to mind, what I want to remember when everyone who reads this one time doesn't need or want to re-read it in the future.


First I want to talk about Cody. I simply cannot wait to talk to him. I remember feeling that way about Elliott. Not so much Nicky because somehow he was communicating just fine before he mastered the English language! (Imagine that) Cody doesn't seemed to be interested in learning English here, he is too caught up in the boys and the excitement of being adopted and coming to America! The funny thing is he told Nicky shortly after we got here that he was going to be able to speak English better than he did! El got a kick out of that! If our family is engaged in a conversation in English, he doesn't want to be left out. He is always saying "Show Show?" (what..what?) He also has a sense of humor and also seems to be able to take teasing, which is good if he is going to be able to hang in our family! The other day Elliott was singing passionately directly to him (not at his request), kind of an American Idol performance you could say. After a while, Cody said something to him in Russian and Nicky started laughing. I ask Nicky what he said and he told me Cody said "I'll buy you some ice-cream if you quit!" Of course, Elliott didn't. Cody just shook his head and smiled!



When our family was squeezed around the dinner table the other night I had Elliott ask Cody about life before the orphanage. Cody said he doesn't remember life before the orphanage. I have thought about that a lot since then. He has been in the orphanage for 10 years, since the age of 5. Wow. No memory of life before a government facilitated institution. I don't think I can wrap my brain around it. Actually, this whole adoption thing is over my head. C'mon...if I really stop and think about it...at my age, limited finances, 4 teenage boys. What in the world? BUT, we know the answer don't we...WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! He gives hope to the hopeless. When I am weak, He is strong. He has my back and my front. I am hemmed in. He covers me with the shadow of His wings. I can't BUT he can, because He is in me and I am in Him. He gives Peace when I should have none. To know HIM...the ultimate gift. The giver and the gift. The God of second chances. The kinsmen redeemer. The great I AM. Ahhhh.


Okay more Cody stuff. This is like snippets of my Cody baby book so bear with me, please.

He has a lisp. It's so cute. Alright, I know it is not suppose to be cute, but it is! I thought some kids were making fun of it the other day and I was seriously ready for a fight! The other night he took a shower at the apartment. Can you imagine it being the first shower he took in an actual home/apartment? Anyway, afterwards he came out squeaky clean with wet hair. It was wavy and standing up all over the place. It was sooo cute (there's that word again)! Also, I checked out his feet. They are kind of wide like mine. I felt like I did right after Tobi & Spencer were born and I was checking out all of their features! Oh and his face gets really red, really quick and he has this little white spot right in the middle of it. Ty actually noticed it first. I have so many things yet to discover. My friend Kim McCormack, who just adopted 15 year old Kai (from Ukraine)just discovered he was ticklish. She never knew. The wonder of it all.



Now, some funny Ty stuff I want to remember. So, as some of you know Nicky's bio family started coming out of the woodwork. No money was given by us and they finally disappeared. Ty and I were a little creeped out over it though. One day (kind of in the middle of all this drama)I ask Ty if he wanted to go to the market with me and he said yes. Dave ended up wanting to go with us at the last minute. Right before we left Ty slipped into the kitchen and opened one of the drawers. I ask what he was doing and he said he was putting the butter knife back. I ask why he had the butter knife and he said "A butter knife has many uses, you never know when it might come in handy!" :-) That's our Ty! One day Dave were walking down the street with Tyler and I commented on how cute looked. He said "that makes me want to take this off right now and barf!". I said "what?" He told me "CUTE wasn't the look he was going for!" I said "Okay, what should I say?" "Nothing, just say nothing" I said "How about when I think something like that again I will just look at you and say NO COMMENT" and we will have an understanding. He smiled...dimple and all. Gotta love that boy! (No comment)


Nicky had way more fun here than he expected to have. A little of his Russian back, female classmates swooning over him, playing soccer and hanging out with his brothers! He had a little bump in the road about the bio family thing but Nicky is like the everready bunny..just keeps on ticking. It concerns me some...BUT GOD. He heals and restores.


Elliott seems to be glad to be going home. As I think I stated before, re-kindling relationships were both good and hard. He saw many needs and is processing what he can and cannot do about it. Watching him journey through this trip was not easy for me. He was excited, sad, exhausted and reflective. His sister, Ruslana ask me why he is so sad. I wish I could have talked to her without him being the translator. I tried to tell her that he is not sad at home, but sometimes it may appear that way because in his relationships he carries the wisdom and the burden of the Lord. She said that she knows he is younger than her but most of the time he seems older than she does. I regret not being able to really communicate well with her.


So the TV interview. What a whirlwind! Oles calls us the day before telling us that we are being ask to be interviewed for Children's Protection Day on the local news. The inspector evidently set this up. The inspector was also the same inspector for our adoption in 2006. When we first saw her then, she told us she remembered very vividly Nicky's story. She remembered that he lived on the streets, begged for money, and paided his paid his parents bills as well as other things. She was involved in taking the parental rights away in 2003. It made an impact on her. She was interested in him and us. Why would we do this again? The interview took place in a park. Dave, Nicky and I were ask a few questions each. Dave went first. I'll tell you what I remember. Dave's questions: Why did you adopt this child? Was it a hard process? Dave talked about the kids coming over as part of a choir and us meeting Nicky through that and falling in love with him. He said it wasn't a hard process, but a very long process. They didn't seem to want to expound on that. Next...me. They ask me how why I would want to do it again. I thought about saying "I DON'T HAVE A CLUE!" :-) I told him how we met Sasha when we adopted in 06 and spent a lot of time with him and how we had been praying for him ever since. We felt led to come back and adopt him. Let me tell you that talking through an interpreter and trying to look ino the interviewer's face was not easy! Then he ask me what Children's day meant to me? Okay, well now I was at a loss for words. What was he looking for? I just heard of children's day a few days ago. As far as I knew it was a celebration for kids. Then, they through in a word like "protection of children". I just smiled and said "adoption...hope". He seemed to be okay with it, or he at least smiled. A rarity in Ukrainian adults, especially strangers. But..he was a TV personality. Okay, last but not least...Nicky. He could understand what the guy was asking but wasn't comfortable answering in Russian, so he responded in English with a translator. He basically said he loved America and loved having the support of a family and the opportunities available to him in America, especially since he was living on the streets before. I was proud of how he handled himself!

Court on Friday and hoping to come home Sunday or Monday!

The Boys Leave

Yesterday (Monday), Elliott, Nicky and Tyler packed and headed off on the bus to Zaporozhya where they caught the overnight train to Kyiv. They fly out of Kyiv on Wednesday morning. Thank God for Doug and Suzie Stoddard. They are really making the trip easy. Doug picked the boys up at the train station at o dark thirty in the morning and will take them to the airport tomorrow.

Here is a picture I've been wanting to post but couldn't find

until recently - our first family

photo:

Kathie and I called Elliott to call us a cab to go to eat last night and had to call him a couple of times to get supper ordered. Now we are realizing how much help he was while he was here. We had him get us a cab home while they were boarding the train. We are going to run up a large phone bill if we don't figure this out in the next day!

Kathie is making plans to for her trip home. We would like to travel up to Kyiv on Friday night but with court in the afternoon, I don't know if we'll make it - I may have to spring for a cab to Mariopal - I will definitely be stressed if we don't!

I am having a coffee american at the sidewalk cafe with the wi-fi. I looks like mud and tastes gritty - but it does have a kick! I normally have decaf so I'm probably in for a quick walk home!

I dropped off another load of laundry - that process is pretty much in auto although I was able to ask for softener this time.

At our favorite restaurant - the bavarian looking one in the park about a block from the hotel - likes to play an american '80s rock and roll radio station. They also have very good Moldovian chardonnay (although it is not chilled).

I am really looking forward to this week with Kathie without the boys (although we will have Cody in the afternoons) to have a little chill time like we did the last time we were here. Cody is a joy to have around - he is low maintenance and appears to be a happy boy. I am also looking forward to my time with him after Kathie leaves - look out Berdyansk - party time!

Holidays in Berdyansk

Today (Sunday 5/30) is our 23rd wedding anniversary!!!

Cody's school had the "Last Bell" ceremony Saturday. Nicky and Tyler spent Friday night there again. We were told that it was at 9 AM, then we got a call at 8:15 and said it starts at 8:30! We were about 15 minutes late but we got there. The Rahn's attended the ceremony last year when they were here. We saw Natasha (The Rahn's new daughter) at the ceremony and talked to her. She and Cody will be in the same grade and school in Williamsburg! It is a small world!

After the ceremony, I gave Nick and Cody some money and they were told to be home by 8 PM. Cody ended up staying with us at the apartment on Saturday night. See them? They are crashed!!! We walked to the grocery to get them breakfast this morning and they ate it all!!

Last Monday was definitely a holiday. I am not sure which one it was though. We thought it was Children's Day but we now know that Children's day is Tuesday, June 1. We know that because we were interviewed by Berdyansk TV yesterday in conjunction with Children's Day. Oles had called and said that the Inspector had called him asking if we would allow an interview for Children's Day. He thought that Elliott could translate for us - they wanted to interview us on Monday with Elliott and Nicky but we told them the boys were headed to Kyiv on Monday. So we rescheduled for Friday afternoon at 2 PM. Elliott just missed the interview - he was on his way back from Militopal and arrived at the apartment as we were headed out. Bill's wife Oksana was kind enough to be our translator. They interviewed us in the park outside the Inspector's office - they only asked each of us three questions - naturally, Kathie got the tough one, "What does Children's Day mean to you? " (Never heard of Children's Day before this!!)

So what holiday was last Monday? I asked Oksana what holiday was last Monday and she said it was Penticost - since it falls on a Sunday they celebrate on Monday.

Also the anxiety is over as of Saturday night - Oles called and said he will pick up the papers in Zap so I am off the hook to go there. We already got the boy's ticket's for the Zap train so now we are trying to change them to the Militopal train (don't have to ride the bus as far). The kids will be leaving Berdyansk at around noon on Monday - they will get to Kyiv on Tuesday morning and our friend Doug Stoddard will meet them there and they will stay with the Stoddard's on Tuesday night. Doug also said he will get them to the airport on Wednesday to catch their flight. This is such a big help!!!

Found out that Kath and I will not be leaving Berdyansk until Saturday because court is in the afternoon and could last as long as two hours - leaving later Friday is out of the question so Kath is now looking for a Monday flight to the states. Kinda keeps you on your toes!!!

Today 4:45 PM Oles called and said he was sending a cab to pick me up and take me to the bus station to send a document to Yulia on the Kyiv bus. The bus leaves at 5 PM! The cab drove 70 down the hill to the bus station and we ran and caught the bus just before they closed the doors. Then Oles called me and said that I had to do the same thing for the 9 PM bus to Odessa!!! Thank God the bus station is just five blocks from the restaurant!!

The Anxiety is Setting In!

Oles left for Odessa on Tuesday so we are on our own! We have gotten laundry dropped off, picked up and I have had to take a taxi to the courthouse to drop off documents. Now Oles needs me to go to Zaporozhya and pick up a document for court. It doesn't have to be done right away so I am going to try to work it in with dropping the boys off to catch the train. I also want to minimize my costs. So.... do I take the bus to Zap or hire a cab? It would have to be a huge cab to take all the luggage...Then when I get to Zap we have to get the boys to the train, I have to get the documents and then find the bus back to Berdyansk. Then I will have to do it all over again after court to take Kathie to Kyiv - only then I will also take the train up and back. I'm up for an adventure but also somewhat perplexed about what to do. I really need your prayers for this adventure!!

Elliott will be a big help on the first trip. The train to Kyiv leaves in the late afternoon or evening so he can ride the cab with me to get the document and get me back on the bus before they head up on the train. I'll have to be focused on what he does so I can guide Kathie up there.

That will happen on Monday so I have three days to plan it. Kathie gonna call some folks in Zap and Kyiv to see what else we can work out.

It is another very nice day in Berdyansk. Some clouds - mostly sunny about 71 degrees - slight breeze, low humidity. I checked the weather and it is supposed to heat up next week to the low 80's. Until now we haven't had to use the air conditioner at the apartment.

We dropped off Steve at the bus station in the early evening yesterday - he was headed to see friends in Militopal. Then I took the boys to eat at the Hotel. Kath was feeling tired - keep her in your prayers as she is wiped out from all the walking and organizing and she might have some little bug also - she was coughing this morning.

We were woke up by loud music blaring from a PA system across the street at the school - it appears that today was graduation. all the girls had on black skirts and whdite bouses and the guys had on black slacks and white shirts. The all had a red banner over their shoulder. the music was blaring for about an hour and there were lats of adults milling about.

I am down on the promenade now and I see there are also lots of girls wearing what looks like maid outfits with a white stockings and a white banner and these guys have on black sport coats and the white banner also - maybe another school???? Lots of folks out also - I wonder if it's another holiday??? I hate it when they have holidays and don't tell me about it - guess I'll have a piva to celbrate whatever it is.....

As I am sitting here observing people I need to vocalize an observation - the man purse. Here in Ukraine, most of the guys have them. These aren't the small backpack like Paul Copeman uses - these are... well... purses! Some look like a camera bag on a long strap but some have a handle and are... well... purses! What do they put in there? Mascara? Lip gloss? Their billfold? Comb? Change purse? Should I get one to fit in? Maybe I'll get Nick one first to try it out. If he doesn't use it, I'll forget it. I asked Oles about them and he said they originated when the iron curtain fell and all the Russian mafia had them - that kinda worries me cause you could only put a small gun in there ( kinda feminine... maybe a 25 caliber)... not like the violin cases of the twenty's in the US - those were real gangster's....

Visiting Relatives

First I would like to thank all of you who are leaving comments, especially Nancy Hathaway - Kherson - got it!! I have been confused over the Huliaipole pronunciation for some time. I thought is was two words until I found it on Google Earth.

We have a relative from the US here with us for a day - Steve Huff - Kathie's cousin. He was in Germany and decided to head on down. He came in on the 3 PM train. This is the guy who did the engraving on the Browning Hi-Power that I inherited from Kathie's dad.

After we visited for several hours we decided to take a cab to the Potato House for supper. We had never been there before but we had been to the pizza parlor next door. We walked into the Potato House and the decor is somewhat puzzling - there are pictures of cowboys and Indians super imposed on urban (New York, I believe) pictures. This is not just framed pictures - It is the wall paper - more like a mural. There is one picture of several Indian chief on motorcycles (Indian motorcycles I presume!!). On the ceiling is a huge photo of skyscrapers oriented like you were looking up through them. Also the waiters and cashiers have a pseudo cowboy hat on and western shirts and jeans. So my curiosity got the best of me and I had Elliott ask what gives. He immediately started to roll over in laughter. The cashier said that the food they serve is Mexican in nature (Buffalo wings?) and that is what they depict - not knowing that Mexicans are not Indians. She said that Ukrainians never ask.

The food and wine was great and inexpensive. I had the Chicken steak (Sliced like a steak and very tender!) - the boys finished off the last of their supply of buffalow wings and they said they were tasty.

Another interesting observation to show you that the Ukrainians are getting more western in their orientation - please see the SUV. This is the premier SUV in Ukraine made by the reliable LADA corporation. High ground clearance so that you can climb out of those potholes without bottoming out!!!

Tuesday, May 25

We are very fortunate to have a washer in our apartment. The first few days we were here, when we had both apartments, we were running them continuously. Since last Friday, the one in our apartmen t won't spin. These are side loading washers that use very little water but they spin the clothes almost dry – a cycle takes about an hour and a half and you still have to hang the clothes up to completely dry but they are easier than using the tub and ringing the clothes out. So the wash has piled up.

Kathie and I loaded it into two backpacks and took it to the laundromat where they do it for you this morning at 8 am. The weather was great – about 70, sunny with a slight breeze so we didn't sweat too much! When we got to the laundry (Gary – same one we used last time – by the hotel) there was a guy there that spoke as much English as I speak Russian!! kathie started by trying to explain that we had used this laundry in 2006 – I was trying to explain two loads all on the same bill. That's Kath – trying to get the relationship down! I just wanted the laundry done. It is supposed to be done tomorrow – we'll see!!! Ten bucks says that the woman that did our laundry in 2006 recognizes Kathie and does it for free!!!

We exchanged some money and got some breakfast food from a street vendor (I wish this would catch on in America – the food is great!!!!)) headed back to the apartment. We are trying to get Elliott packed up – he is headed to Keersan (can't find it on Google Earth so the spelling is questionable!) to visit Mel's House – a christian outreach to orphans that have aged out of the orphanage and then to Mariupol to visit his sister. Elliott is the greatest kid on earth but he isn't real organized!!! He has a heart as big as Texas but he wouldn't pack underwear without us!!!

Oles had us sign some documents to get the court thing going. He is headed out to Odessa after he applies for a court date – we are praying for June 3!! Oles tells us that even if they give us June 3 that that is not a sure bet – the SDA paperwork may take longer – so everyone on their knees now - lift this up – I love Ukraine but want to get Cody and get back!!!

I took the cab with Oles to the court building so I could head to my favorite wi-fi hotspot to blog on the main drag and watch the people go by.

The Weekend -Saturday, Sunday and Monday

Saturday, a day off!!! Kath and I got up around 8 and headed to the big supermarket to have coffee. While there we decided to get some groceries. I'm always kidding Kathie that she can runn into people she knows wherever she goes - so we run into the inspector that handled our last adoption and was the inspector for this one also and we ran into the Orphanage director, Galena Anatoliva!!!

In the afternoon, Bill from the complex here was having a youth gathering and we went to the rec area and played foosball and and ping pong.

About 7 ish we got cleaned up and took the boys to a restaurant in the park by the hotel. It is a bavarian looking place and the food is excellent and they have a good wine selection. This is where we found the moldovian chardonnay the last time we were here. We all ate till we were about to burst and then headed back to the apartment.

Sunday we woke up early because Nick and I were going to get Cody in Huliaipole. We had reserved tickets on Saturday and the bus was leaving at 7:00 AM, the cab would be here at 6:40. The cab driver, Roman, has been very helpful and helped us get to the right window to get the tickets. It took about an hour and a half and I recognized the bus station as the one we stopped at for a break when we came back fro Zaporozhya. We hired a cab to get to the orphanage. It was going to be more expensive than I thought and I thought we were being taken. It should only be 4 miles to the orphanage. I learned quickly that we got off the bus in Polohy instead of Huliaipole. Evidently it is a major stop on between Zaporozhya and Berdyansk, and it is about 12 miles from Huliaipole - so we had to take the cab there and back (since I already contracted the guy!) He stopped at the bus station in Huliaipole to ask directions, so at least I know what the right stop is now!!!!!

We picked up Cody and got back to Polohy, and bought three tickets on the bus to Berdyansk - it was leaving in ten minutes! Guess what - same bus we rode to Polohy on!!! We were back in Berdyansk by noon!

The boys and I went to the hotel for lunch (cause they have an English menu). I was starving, the boys had snacks at Polohy. I had a Caesar Salad (the best ever!!!) and Diruny (potatoe pancake with mushrooms) and a piva! I was stuffed. We called Roman to take us back to the apartment.

The kids are all going to spend the night at the orphanage tonight (even Tyler). Elliott rented some movies. and they are gonna party because tomorrow is a holiday - children's day!!

Oles, Kathie and I went back to the bavarian restaurant in the park for supper - afterwards Oles went for a walk and Kath and I headed back to the apartment alone for the first time in two weeks!!!

Kathie starts writing here....
Monday, May 24

Today is a national holiday in Ukraine, Children's Day. I think it is a great holiday to have, just not on my time! :-) Every holiday keeps us another day further from completing our adoption and coming home with Cody. The next holiday is Monday, June 1st. Not sure what that one is all about yet, but everything official will be closed that day too.

Yesterday, Elliott & I went to church here at the center. The music was awesome and I so wished I understood Russian to appreciate it even more. The church last about 2 to 2 ½ hours so it felt like home! I miss our church but so awesome to know there is brothers and sisters in Christ wherever you go.

Dave & Nicky took Cody to Huliaipole (I'll never be able to spell or say it correctly) on Friday by taxi and had to go get him Sunday by bus. They got off one town to early yesterday and had to find a taxi to go the last 12 miles. Cody was glad to come back. He wasn't very excited about going, as he didn't really know anyone, barely his sister. Of course, he is all about hanging with his new brothers now. I'm wondering if he will really bond with Dave & I because of the boys. Oles encouraged me by saying he would. He said Cody has many boys in his life, what he doesn't have is parents and a family. We will have our moments and it will happen. I liked hearing that.

Yesterday when the boys returned they all wanted to stay all night together in the orphanage...even Ty! I wasn't concerned about E & N but I was Ty. I thought “what if he doesn't like it, what if everyone ignores him, what will he eat, etc...” Dave assured me that it was Ty's idea and it would be an experience for him whether he liked it or not. Nan Nan's get a little overprotective sometimes. Long story short...he had a great time! (however, the only thing he ate was candy because the other food looked to weird!)

Dave & I have been walking about 5 blocks most mornings to get coffee. We found a place where the coffee is tolerable. I doubt if it is decaf but I don't seem to be wired from it. Hopefully, I won't have a terrible headache coming off of it when I return home!

Earlier today be bought fruit at the market. Bananas, strawberries, orange, apples & kiwi. It is 4 p.m. And we have NONE left. Cody himself ate 5 bananas in a row! Fruit is a rare treat in the orphanage.

Elliott is here chillin for the afternoon and has lost his voice. I hope he gets it back soon because he is going to Kherson (3/12 – 4 hr drive)to visit “Joshua's House”. Joshua's house is a home for boys sponsored by Heart for Orphans (www.heartfororphans.com). God is doing an amazing work there and he is anxious to see it! Then he is off to Melitopol for a final visit with his sister, Ruslana before coming back to Berdyansk.

It is a beautiful day out again, so Dave & I are headed out for a stroll before I have to rattle some pots & pans. (notice I'm trying NOT to complain about it!)

Back to Dave composing...

I love to go exploring whenever I'm in a place I'm not familiar with. When we moved into the Baptist mission house in Kyiv, I wasn't happy till I walked around and figured out where it was on the map. I use Google Earth a lot because it is easy to see the landmarks. I also get the spelling of the namer of the towns from Google Earth – they have both the Russian (Cyrillic) and the English form of the name. From the apartment we are in now, I have been north – to the big grocery store, east – to the hotel Berdyansk and downtown, and south to the orphanage.

So this afternoon, while Kathie started supper, I decided to walk west from the apartment. The area we are in has several five story apartment buildings that are very long – maybe a large city block long (150 yards). When I went one block south and then west, there was a park-like place about 5 blocks long (west from the apartment) with a wide paved walkway through it. It is about 200 yards wide and was absolutely filled with people today (cause of the holiday). At the west end there is a small mopen air market but it was closed today. There are a couple of restaurants (bars) that have tables outside at the end of the park – I'm gonna go have a piva there tomorrow!!!

Kathie cooked a fabulous meal while I was gone and all the boys are back from roaming the town so it's time to eat!!!!

More Travelling

Woke up Thursday, May 20, (I'm forgetting what day it is!!) and Kathie and I walked to a shopping center about 4 blocks from the apartment. It seems to be a new place with a large grocery (reminds me of a small version of a WaMart Supercenter cause they have everything in there from drills and grills to books and groceries). They have a coffee kiosk in the center so you can see what's going on. There is an appliance store, a couple of shoe stores and a drug store. There are several empty stores too. The coffee was great! We shopped and took the groceries back and late in the morning, Ty, Kath and I walked to the hotel for lunch.

We walked down those big stairs by the open market and noticed that they had redone them since we were here last. They used to be in horrible shape and now they are rather picturesque! Even have roman columns at the top. The Market has changed also. They have a lot of booths that have like a hurricane shutter over it in the front so it can be locked up rather than just the metal frame for a canvas cover. But the market was closing up by 3 PM when we got there.

Elliott and Nicky had gone to the orphanage to get Cody about 3 PM also. We headed back to the apartment about 4 pm. We then decided to try to meet up with the boys for supper but by the time we worked that out Cody had to be back at the orphanage so Elliott got him something quick to eat. We all went downtown about 9 PM and met Oles and Elliott and Nicky for supper.

The boys had a good time with the camera after we ate and were walking on the promenade. The we went back to the apartment and crashed.

Friday, Oles had to go to Zaporizhzhya to get our separation agreement and I had to take Cody to Huliaipole to spend the weekend with Katia. We were both gonna take the bus, Nick was going with me to translate. We picked up Cody, signed a petition and left about 11 AM. By the time we got to the bus station, the Huliaipole bus was sold out. We could rent bikes (my idea), walk or take a cab – so we opted for the cab. We had a great trip up there and got back around 5PM. Cody wanted Nicky to stay with him but we decided against that at the last minute. Not sure of the politics in that orphanage and the purpose of the trip was for Cody and Katia to spend time together. I have to get him Sunday so pray that I will get the right bus and not end up in Siberia!!!

We went back to the big supermarket to get more groceries – you can spend a fortune there just on cookies and candy!!!! Tomorrow is a day off!!!

Tuesday, May 18th. I have been in Ukraine for 9 days and this is my first time posting to the blog. Dave & I are sitting outside the Notaries office while Oles is taking care of business. I'm a little foggy so bear with me...
This trip is certainly different than our first trip. Let me say that I was somewhat aware that there are ALWAYS issues that arise when traveling to Ukraine to adopt. I was prepared (somewhat) for that but traveling & maintaining a group of 5, plus Cody, Oles and now Ruslana & Deeana (Elliott's sister & her daughter)is definitely a challenge! Last trip there was some down time but I haven't found it yet!

I actually haven't read what Dave has posted yet (too busy)but I hear you all have been well informed on our itinerary, food and his piva and wi-fi finds! I will just tell you some interesting observations and some heart stuff and details about the boys reactions and happenings.

Cody Aleksander (still trying to get use to his name)is dreamy. Yes, we changed his name (he wanted an American name) and it had to be done in Kiev before traveling to Berdyansk. This was so I could sign off on Dave bringing him home without me. We are traveling back a few weeks before him so the boys can get back in school. Seeing him for the first time in 3 ½ years was sureal. All these thoughts swimming through my head, remembering all the prayers for him over the past 3 years, wondering what he is thinking, feeling, what is he going to be like. He walked through the door and my heart leaped and melted at the same time. He was totally overwhelmed, nervous and excited and could barely speak. His bottom lip was quivering but his eyes were glistening! Cody is REALLY tiny for his age. He is 15 ½ but looks 12. He has GREAT hair...sandy blonde, nice texture and a nice wave. Plush eyelashes just like his sister, Tobi and his eyes are a beautiful green in color. His cheeks flush easily and has a smile that lights up a room. Yep, he's pretty much perfect!

I'm back...it's now Thursday, May 20th. Had to stop a few days ago because we were on the move to Zaporizhzha and then Dave & Oles stayed in Zap and sent me home in a taxi by myself.

I'm going to try to stay away from all the details of itinerary and food (however crazy & good) and get to the emotional/relationship stuff. As I write this I am sighing. Too much to tell without enough time. Three boys from Ukraine. Three boys with a past. Three boys who have left/leaving family behind.

Elliott bears the burden of a sister who is just surviving (his words) as a single Mother who because of her heritage (gypsy)most Ukranians choose to ignore. His emotions are high because of the plight of his family & friends. He is spread thin between his sister, his homework, his friends, his new brother and doing ministry. I think he will collapse when he gets back to the US!

On Monday Nicky 30-year-old half brother shows up that he forgot he had, AND Wednesday his biological Mother shows up with tons of drama and tears. (LONG STORY) Nicky showed her affection because she extremely emotional. He said he felt sorry for her but felt no love, that it was like hugging a stranger. Nicky told us that when you hug your Mom you are suppose to feel comfort, but he felt no comfort like he does with me. He said that I am his real Mom. Not sure he has really processed it all. I know I haven't.

Then there is Cody. It took 5 hours for his sister to sign the document allowing for him to be adopted without her. He was so relieved when it was over, we all were! She even came out smiling, which was truly a miracle and an answer to many prayers! Cody has only seen her once since she moved to another orphanage 8 years ago. My heart went out to her, she is afraid we will disappear with him and she will never see or hear from him again. We tried to console her, explaining that we have kept in contact with Elliott and Nicky's sisters. Some of you have ask why we are separating them. He has a strong desire to be adopted. I have carried a burden for him over 3 years. We were not approved by our homestudy to adopt more than one child, a boy. There will be two boys to a room. As much as I would like to see her get adopted, it just won't work for our family. He doesn't really have a relationship as brother/sister as we who have grown up with siblings have. He went to the orphanage at age 5 and she was at the same orphanage for two years. Children in the orphanage are separated by their sex and their age. They lived under the same roof at the orphanage for two years but not as a family. We will pray for Katya and do the best we can to keep the two in communication with each other. We have agreed to take Cody back to her orphanage for this weekend. Dave will take a bus (two hours)& drop him off tomorrow and come back. Sunday he will go get him. She has ask for two weekends before he leaves. It is inconvenient, but necessary.

Tyler is a joy to have here. He has been a real trooper. He is enjoying the different culture & food and making lots of observations. He said Berdyansk was much different than he thought. He is anxious to be able to talk to Cody, as are we! He told me today he was ready to hear some English and when he gets home he was going to pay attention to conversations that even other people were having (like at a restaurant). His new favorite thing is hot tea (black). He wants it 3-4 times a day, but I am holding him down to two! Tyler & Nicky watch an episode of McGyver at night before bed and love it! They are so funny!

So much more to tell. Maybe another day. Time to gather the troop and go eat! Feeding this family is a daily issue! I know, I know what you are thinking...GET USED TO IT!! :-)